I went to bed defeated, discouraged & not sure what I had just gotten myself into.
My husband and I had just spent 2 days sitting in front of a fire hose of information at the Empowered to Connect simulcast. It was our first exposure to TBRI (Trust Based Relational Intervention) and we were excited to get home to begin using all of the amazing tools we had learned!
My husband and I had just spent 2 days sitting in front of a fire hose of information at the Empowered to Connect simulcast. It was our first exposure to TBRI (Trust Based Relational Intervention) and we were excited to get home to begin using all of the amazing tools we had learned!
That morning I went downstairs with a Karyn Purvis (creator of TBRI)/Mary Poppins-like spirit, ready to "TBRI" the trauma out of my kids. I was ready to start doing all the things I had learned at the simulcast - compromises, choices, time-ins. If you’ve attended a simulcast or watched any of Karyn’s videos, I figured if I sang it in a playful voice my kids would respond.
It didn't work. My kids were nuts - crying, screaming, clingy - pretty much opposite of everything that I was expecting. Needless to say, my tank was empty about 2 hours into re-entry with my family.
For the next few weeks I hung TBRI up on the hook & decided it would be nice for some other people. Then I started watching my husband interact with my kids and tell them “Try it again with respect.” And they would do it! I started playing with my daughter and would have her animals do things the wrong way and the right way. We were having fun - laughing and playing!
My kids were responding. It was working all because we took a step. We found one thing and did it - over & over & over.
Fast forward 4 years: I’ve attended 4 Empowered to Connect simulcasts, became an ETC parent trainer and each time I work through the material I learn something new. Something new to implement and most of the time it has to do with ME.
At LoveMovesUs we are committed to serving and supporting families who open their home to vulnerable children, many from hard places. Over the years we have introduced hundreds of parents to this powerful and connected approach to parenting. I have seen the hearts of parents as they are not only willing to jump in and learn but through implementation their families have dramatically changed forever. Parents and children are healing, my own family continues to heal.
On the flip side, I’ve also seen families who are desperate, try for a week and they give up. My heart breaks when I know families are in crisis and there is hope for them but they quit before they see the fruit. It is not a quick fix but a long term journey.
This year at ETC, Sarah Mercado addressed what had been so heavy on my heart. She said, “I tell people to give TBRI 90 days. 90 days to see a difference in your family.” My heart leapt! YES! That was it. That was the moment this 90 day journey began.
If you are anything like me, the ETC fire is quickly fading. Or maybe you missed ETC altogether. Back to life, back to old habits and the summer is quickly approaching! It’s a perfect time to jump in & start creating some new ways of thinking about our kids and our parenting.
This 90 day journey will give you practical tools to implement connected parenting & a community to cheer one another on.
We are going to start small - so let’s take a step & gather together for the first 30 days. We’ll take it in baby steps and we will celebrate! Let’s hold each other accountable, pray for one another, take care of ourselves & connect with our kids. The best part is that we don’t have to do this alone - we were never meant to!
Join the Summer of Connection!
It didn't work. My kids were nuts - crying, screaming, clingy - pretty much opposite of everything that I was expecting. Needless to say, my tank was empty about 2 hours into re-entry with my family.
For the next few weeks I hung TBRI up on the hook & decided it would be nice for some other people. Then I started watching my husband interact with my kids and tell them “Try it again with respect.” And they would do it! I started playing with my daughter and would have her animals do things the wrong way and the right way. We were having fun - laughing and playing!
My kids were responding. It was working all because we took a step. We found one thing and did it - over & over & over.
Fast forward 4 years: I’ve attended 4 Empowered to Connect simulcasts, became an ETC parent trainer and each time I work through the material I learn something new. Something new to implement and most of the time it has to do with ME.
At LoveMovesUs we are committed to serving and supporting families who open their home to vulnerable children, many from hard places. Over the years we have introduced hundreds of parents to this powerful and connected approach to parenting. I have seen the hearts of parents as they are not only willing to jump in and learn but through implementation their families have dramatically changed forever. Parents and children are healing, my own family continues to heal.
On the flip side, I’ve also seen families who are desperate, try for a week and they give up. My heart breaks when I know families are in crisis and there is hope for them but they quit before they see the fruit. It is not a quick fix but a long term journey.
This year at ETC, Sarah Mercado addressed what had been so heavy on my heart. She said, “I tell people to give TBRI 90 days. 90 days to see a difference in your family.” My heart leapt! YES! That was it. That was the moment this 90 day journey began.
If you are anything like me, the ETC fire is quickly fading. Or maybe you missed ETC altogether. Back to life, back to old habits and the summer is quickly approaching! It’s a perfect time to jump in & start creating some new ways of thinking about our kids and our parenting.
This 90 day journey will give you practical tools to implement connected parenting & a community to cheer one another on.
We are going to start small - so let’s take a step & gather together for the first 30 days. We’ll take it in baby steps and we will celebrate! Let’s hold each other accountable, pray for one another, take care of ourselves & connect with our kids. The best part is that we don’t have to do this alone - we were never meant to!
Join the Summer of Connection!
After Jason & Cheryl Bentsen adopted their son 12 years ago, it sparked a desire to help other families navigate and afford their adoption. God used that desire and began to mold it and shape it into a vision for supporting families that answer the call to adopt or foster. Jason is a TBRI Practitioner & together they are Empowered to Connect Parent Trainers.
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